Ask God, Your Forgiveness Is Vital

“Forgive me.”

If you whisper that frequently, then ask God because He will.

It’s the simplest thing; yet for so many (including veteran Christians) asking God for forgiveness can seem the most intimidating thing of all, yet it shouldn’t be. Asking God for anything should the most natural thing in the world for a Christian. Getting answers to those prayers should be too!

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Here is how to forgive and how to ask God for forgiveness, so that you receive your request from Him and learn how to pray more effectively in line with His perfect will for your life.

FIRSTLY, forgiveness is foundational…

1.Ask God to teach you how to forgive by His Holy Spirit. Ask God to allow His love to heal and release you from bitterness towards all those that have not only harmed you in the past, but have troubled or harmed you TODAY.

Ask Him to teach you how to immediately spot seeds of bitterness, resentment or unforgiveness building up in your heart throughout the day and let them go by forgiving others.

A new sense of peace will enter your heart. Then after a while, no matter how others may initially hurt or cause you to react against them, after you’ve been trained by the Holy Spirit to maintain an ongoing attitude of forgiveness like this, great freedom, peace and joy will spring up and remain deep within you, always ready to bubble up and refresh and cleanse when you need it.

2.The flip side of forgiveness is just as foundational.

It is asking God to forgive you for your sins.

There are two things to remember here…

i) If you want to experience the healing power and joy of having your sins forgiven you MUST FIRST forgive anyone past or present who has hurt or sinned against you in any way (no matter how grievous).

This is vital because Jesus said that unless you do that your Father who is in heaven will NOT forgive you your sins either (Matthew 6 v 14, 15 NKJV).

“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your heavenly Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6 v 14,15 NIV)

Never forget, that because we have all fallen short of the glory of God, we have all grieved God so deeply that really His wrath should destroy us instantly, but because of what Jesus did for us on the Cross (with Jesus taking the punishment we should have had), we stand in a place where we can be RESTORED, healed and forgiven… there is just one small step God requires we must take first, before we can experience this healing restoration by God; we must forgive others.

Then the way is open for us, and we can ask God for forgiveness and get it immediately.

It goes like this…

First, we forgive EVERYONE else > then God will forgive us.

ii) For some of us though, it’s not so much asking God to forgive us which is the problem or forgiving others. Instead it’s our own sense of unworthiness that prevents us really feeling God’s forgiveness in our emotions that causes us heartache.

However, quite often the issue lies not in feelings or emotions at all. Instead it’s a simple case of self pity or worse still, unbelief.

No matter what you may have done… it’s TOO LATE to change it now, so the only thing you can do is MOVE FORWARD… unless you want to stay ‘stuck.’

The best way to move forward is by receiving God’s abundant forgiveness BY FAITH right now, and immediately tell yourself to stop wallowing in the mire of despair and self pity (if you are).

God says that when you confess your sins He IMMEDIATELY forgives you…

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness.” (1 John 1 v 9 NKJV)

Take hold of the scripture in 1 John 1 v 9, meditate on it and speak it out loud until it is crystal clear in your heart and mind. Then ACT as if it really were true… because it is.

If you act accordingly like this on a consistent basis, yet find that you still feel condemned, unworthy or guilty before God, then the issue lies elsewhere.

If that is the case, you next need to look at the work of your conscience. Learn why it is vital for you to possess and maintain a clear conscience if you want to receive answers to your prayers and know you are forgiven.

(Note: With certain issues, it is also important to confess your sins to ANOTHER human being, such as your Pastor, wise elder or Christian counsellor as James instructs in James 5 v 16).

Either way, as a Christian forgiveness is non-negotiable. You must learn to forgive, plus you must learn to receive forgiveness. Each aspect is an act of the WILL, executed by faith, and then bedded into your daily walk by prayer. Each day ask the Holy Spirit to keep you “weed free” in this area, in the sense of God being the Gardener who will keep your heart free from the poison of bitterness, resentment or unforgiveness.

It’s nice when there are no weeds!

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  1. Matt says:

    Great article. Can you give some advice on how to deal with my situation or how to go about praying about it? I have trouble trusting that God has forgiven me. I gave my life to Him 4 years ago. Everything was going fine. My life was changed so dramatically. Sins fell off, disappeared, my whole outlook on life was flipped upside down by Christ. Yet the one sin I struggled to let go of has cost me so much. I struggle with pornography and self gratification. It has left me feeling so worthless and far from God. I recently noticed that when I mess up I feel so guilty and worthless. Shameful even. When I go for a long time I feel closer to God. I feel less afraid of Him. Somehow I think I have fallen from grace as Paul puts it. Somehow I have become so occupied with this sin, that I have taken my eyes off of Christ and focused them on how I can be free from this sin. I don’t know how to get back to just trusting and believing God at His word that He has truly forgiven me and accepted me because of Christ…..

    • Dave Alston says:

      Hi Matt,

      Thanks for being so honest.

      GOD would wish that many (seemingly fine upstanding members of congregations too) would be so open and honest. May GOD reward you with the liberty, freedom and joy you desire, because of this honesty, in Jesus’ Name.

      Okay dear brother, here’s the deal…

      1. You ARE 100% saved.

      2. You ARE 100% loved by GOD.

      3. You WERE 100% translated from the Kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of Light when you were born again.

      However… your enemy is using a strategy that is as old as the hills…

      He LIES to you.

      He will tell you (via your EMOTIONS, which are very strong), that GOD is far from you, that GOD will not forgive you, that it is too late, that there is no point trying to fight this thing, because you will lose anyway, that there is no point in being a Christian because you are just a hypocrite.

      However, the TRUTH is this…

      * You are a child of God (John 1 v 12)

      * You are a friend of Jesus Christ (John 15 v 15)

      * You are been bought with a price and are valued. (1 Corinthians 6 v19-20)

      * You have been adopted as a son of God (Ephesians 1 v5)

      * You are free from condemnation (Romans 8 v 1)

      * You are a citizen of heaven (Philippians 3 v 20)

      * You are chosen by Jesus to bear fruit (John 15 v 16)

      * You are COMPLETE (solid, whole, lacking nothing, one) in Christ (Colossians 2 v 10)

      Now, you MUST speak these scriptures OUT LOUD against your enemy who the Bible says will accuse you day and night, to defeat him. But here’s the thing… Jesus says that you will KNOW THE TRUTH and the TRUTH will make you free…

      That is the SECRET right there, to defeat this wretched bondage forever.

      You MUST know the truth.

      Ask GOD by the Holy Spirit to shine His light into your situation and SHOW VERY CLEARLY what the problem is. You see, it may be that there is a DEMONIC stronghold in your life with pornography, but the Bible also says that “the curse, causeless, does not come”.

      In other words there is a reason why this thing is STUBBORNLY hanging onto your life, (spirits associated with lust, pornography etc are often very stubborn, and you will need prayer and fasting to eject them from your life, good to get trusted prayer warriors to stand with you in fasting and prayer at the same time too, until you get 100% free), and the Spirit of GOD is more than willing to show you the access point, when this defiling thing came into your life with it’s bondage.


      Once you see what GOD shows you, then you are in a position to do something about it. Be ASSURED brother, that Jesus has ALL POWER and is 100% willing to deliver you COMPLETELY and utterly from this thing that is marring the precious image of GOD in you, because that is why He went to the cross, to LIBERATE precious souls like yours from the grip of the cruel tyrant, Satan.

      If GOD shows that you need deliverance (quite likely if you have found that although everything else seems to have been sorted out after being Born Again, this thing has stubbornly persisted) then it’s good that you get one or two trusted brothers to pray and war in the Spirit with you in Spiritual Warfare, with fasting until you get the breakthrough.

      You may find the breakthrough comes quickly, you may find it takes months, or sometimes with very deep bondage, it may take years to finally get 100% freedom and deliverance, but whatever the time… NEVER GIVE UP, GOD will give you 100% victory over this thing, 100% GUARANTEED, by the blood of Jesus!

      Now you will also need to KNOW deep, deep, DEEP in your spirit the truths that I explain below, if you really want to walk, true, whole and CLEAN as a disciple of Jesus Christ and honour Him with your life. (This is taken from Chapter 10 in my book, but it is VERY POWERFUL INDEED, don’t skip over what I explain, it plain WORKS because Jesus provided a plan for our COMPLETE TOTAL REDEMPTION from all the bondages and works of Satan.

      Read what follows, very carefully and then PUT IT INTO ACTION on a daily, ongoing basis brother and may GOD Himself grant you the LIBERTY, peace and joy you desire as you surrender your life to His service and for His glory…



      Lets begin with the facts.

      Sin will not die.

      Sin was NOT crucified on the cross—Jesus was.

      Jesus became sin for you, in order that it might be punished and DEFEATED in Him. If you hear preaching saying sin was crucified on the cross —it is wrong, it will only confuse you. (If it was crucified, it would be dead, so why is it still so obviously alive?)

      Sin was DEFEATED on the cross, BUT that does not mean it died. ( This is like Satan—he was defeated, but he is still alive until the Judgement). We all know sin is alive and well.

      Sin causes you to lose peace in your heart. Sin is RESIDENT in you, no matter what you do. While here on earth it will ALWAYS be resident in you. Paul says that very thing here…

      “Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me…bringing me into CAPTIVITY to the law of sin which is IN MY MEMBERS… I myself serve the law of God, but with the FLESH the law of sin.”
      Romans 7 v 20,23,25 (NKJV)

      If sin had been crucified it clearly would not have been alive and flourishing in the life of even the great Apostle Paul as he documents above.

      However there is a great deliverance available to us all.

      It will deliver you from even the worst, most addictive sins you ever face.

      In fact once you get this, a MASSIVE CHUNK of Bible truth will suddenly become so clear that you will wonder how you missed it’s extraordinary power to liberate you before.

      Two Steps Are Involved—You Need Both For Victory

      1. We cry out to God for mercy, forgiveness and cleansing when we sin—He responds by forgiveness, staying His wrath (forbearing with us in His love) and accepts our cry to be washed by the blood of Jesus to be clean.

      (Most Christians get this bit).

      2. We cry out to God for a TOTAL deliverance from slavery to a life of constant sinning—God answers by directing us to the fact that He (already) responded by giving us a PERFECT way of victory. He calls us to BELIEVE and stand upon the FACTS accomplished in the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.

      We ENTER INTO THIS VICTORY BY FAITH demonstrated when we are baptised in water. Then we experience true liberty from sins enslavement of our lives.
      (The second statement above is what trips most Christians up and confuses them).
      You see… Baptism is HUGELY important to YOUR FREEDOM.

      If you are not baptised in water and you don’t know what it REALLY means, you are likely to continue being defeated by sin on an ongoing basis. You will find it hard to fulfil your calling before God because you have not fully entered into it, by IDENTIFICATION. PRAY God for revelation into this ESSENTIAL subject—it is vital.

      Let’s break things down still further… The Old Man v New Man.

      The Old Man (your old nature) ruled the body—he loved sin and was infected and corrupted by it so much he COULD NEVER CHANGE. Hence God saw and decreed that he had to die (in Jesus).

      Therefore, when sin active in a believer (remember it is NOT DEAD) trys to tempt the Christian, the Old Man (who loves sinning) stirs and prompts the believer to sin. The body obeys, because it is weak and does whatever it is told, by the one who is in charge.

      Jesus said that very thing…

      “The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
      (Mark 14 v 38 NKJV)

      Therefore sin conceives, and you experience death. You lose peace with God and man, and are followed 24/7 by a guilty conscience, like a swarm of flies.

      Additionally if the sin is persisted in, a doorway can open that may let in demons that oppress and bind the believers soul making it even harder to escape—the person becomes like an insect caught in a cobweb.

      But… GOOD NEWS.

      God ALREADY slayed your ‘Old Man’ on the Cross of Christ.

      This is because when Jesus died, your Old Man (old sin obsessed nature) died with Him. And then when Jesus was raised from the dead… you WERE GIVEN a new nature—a NEW MAN.

      “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold all things have become new.” (2 Corinthians 5 v 17 NKJV)

      Therefore, because this new man has a new nature, when sin rises up inside him from within his own heart and tries to lure him into sin, instead of finding an old friend (the Old Man/nature) in charge and willing to help sin run wild, this time he finds the NEW MAN with the new nature confronts him with a solid REFUSAL to sin instead.

      Now instead of quickly saying yes to sin (like in so many years previously) by commanding the body to follow out sins request, the NEW MAN REFUSES!
      This is because the believer now has the same nature as JESUS!

      The new man is made JUST LIKE JESUS… and now his rightful place is as RULER in place of the old man who has already been KILLED by the cross of Jesus, thousands of years before.

      Let this sink in… Your new man is made JUST LIKE JESUS.

      Therefore in the “Kingdom of your life” a new King has come to reign … your new man.

      God gave him to you—He killed that HORRID tyrant, (the old man) that used to always say “Yes” to sin, no matter how much will power you tried to use against it, and the Lord replaced this old sin obsessed nature with the new man.

      The new man cannot sin—he does not even WANT to sin. This explains those hard to understand scriptures like…

      “Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God.”
      1 John 3 v 9 (NKJV)

      Get this right deep into your heart—your new man CANNOT sin. So when tempted, the new man does not command the body to ACTIVATE and sin.

      Even though…

      Sin is still very much alive and active against the believer and it’s power is just as strong.

      The body of the believer is still alive—(sin still lives in it; Paul says
      “sin…dwells in me” (Romans 7 v 17 NKJV)).

      But, because the “body of sin has been DONE AWAY” (ie the Old Man) the New Man is now in charge and he simply refuses to “play ball” with sin, Satan or evil.

      Instead this NEW MAN (aided by the Holy Spirit) commands the body, soul and spirit to act like Jesus and do those things that please God!

      This is how to have VICTORY over sin for EVERY believer, weak or strong. Paul says that the old man has been DONE AWAY…

      “Knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin.” Romans 6 v 6 (NKJV)

      In the believer God has REMOVED the ‘hook’ or power base that sin uses to habitually and relentlessly DRIVE a Christian to sin no matter how much he prays or promises to be good. This means that sin no longer has power to DRIVE us continually into sinning any more. Yippee!

      Because this base is gone, sin cannot work in the believer any longer. It has been DISABLED. Understand that though sin is still alive, yet it is DISABLED, (neutered), because now it cannot find anything in YOU to hook into. (You need to take this as fact, by faith).

      This is what Jesus meant when He said…

      “[Satan] The ruler of this world is coming but he has NOTHING in me.” (John 14 v 30 NKJV)

      Now imagine having the same confidence to say that in your life.

      Well now… you can!

      This is because you have now BEEN GIVEN a new nature that is EXACTLY the same as the one Jesus has—sin and Satan have NOTHING in it. ie they have no hold or power over it.

      It is 100% true—these things have nothing in you.

      (Remember, the Bible says as He is in the world, so are we (1 John 4 v 17)).

      This means that the GROUND ITSELF in human lives that sin loves to root itself into and grow out from in the human heart is GONE.

      It has been DONE AWAY by the cross of Jesus Christ.

      New ground has replaced it (the new creation) that is 100% resistant to this type of virulent infection called sin.

      We could also use an illustration of poisoned soil here.

      Therefore metaphorically, when God crucified our old nature with Jesus, He replaced the BAD SOIL (of our old sinful nature) that had inherent weakness to an infection (called sin) with brand new GOOD SOIL (new nature/creation) which is INFECTION (sin) RESISTANT.

      Hence when infection and bugs (sin and Satan) try to begin sowing disease or horrid sin weeds in our lives in order to wreck our crops (fruit, harvest of righteousness, YOUR DESTINY IN GOD etc) they find it IMPOSSIBLE to grow or even get a grip in this new type of garden soil (the new creation).

      This is even though the infection and bugs are still alive.

      Yet… these things are defeated—because the old ground has been removed completely and REPLACED.

      The old has been removed—the new has come. The Amplified Bible makes it even clearer for us…

      “Therefore if any person is [ingrafted] in Christ (the Messiah) he is a new creation (a new creature altogether); the old [previous moral and spiritual condition] has passed away. Behold, the fresh and new has come!”
      2 Corinthians 5:17 (Amplified Bible)

      Let me say again.

      Sin is not dead.

      But (Hallelujah!)…

      The OLD SOIL (old nature) in your life that sin flourished in is dead and HAS BEEN REMOVED.

      This old soil has now been REPLACED in our lives by NEW SOIL (the new creation) which AUTOMATICALLY RESISTS disease infection (sin). It is INFECTION RESISTANT FOREVER!

      FACT: Christ destroyed your old nature by taking it the cross with Him when He died.

      Do you believe that?

      The way of victory over sin becomes a case of REPLACING ONE (BROKEN) NATURE with the BRAND NEW NATURE Jesus won for you by the cross, also in a very similar way to how you may replace a hard drive that is broken in a computer—you swap in a new one!

      You do this by faith. That is you hold FAITHFULLY to the FACT of what God has said about this matter in His word on your behalf, that is faith.

      Believe me, once you get revelation about this, once you truly “get it”—the transformation can come into your life IN A SECOND, and a life of victory can begin for you that will last all the rest of your life on earth.

      No striving, huffing, puffing, begging, pleading required.

      “That sounds all well and good IN THEORY! but real life is not like that!”

      … you may say.

      So how do we practically get this new victorious nature to RULE in our lives from now on? Well, thankfully this wonderful process only involves three very practical steps.

      (What a relief after years of struggle, I can tell you!).


      1. Understand and BELIEVE what Baptism stands for in your life.

      2. Get baptised in water.

      3. Stand by faith on this finished work—watch it change you forever.


      Excerpted from Chapter 10: “How to Defeat Every Stubborn, Persistant Sin You Will Ever Face” in the book “How to Unlock God’s BIG Plan For Your Life.”

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    • Michael says:

      I’m dealing with something similar in regards to willful sin. I believe a lot of people are teaching a false watered down gospel making God’s a grace a cheap grace. Hebrews 10:26-31 and Hebrews 6:4-7 are 2 passages I can’t recall ever heeding until they where shown to me in such a way, it wasn’t accidental. Scripture says God abundantly pardons, so repent and turn away from sin. I’d suggest reading the first 5 books of the Old Testament again to get an idea of how God viewed sin and how He dealt with it. They are uncomfortable passages but we have to view sin the same way God views it, so we are less likely to commit these acts against God. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.

      • Dave Alston says:

        Thanks for sharing Michael.

        Uncomfortable reading will save a soul from hell.

        And yes, the fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom.

        And PRAISE GOD FOREVER for His amazing GRACE to deal with every painful truth He needs to reveal to us. May we accept and learn to cherish the DISCIPLINE of the Holy Spirit (which is really His training of His dearly beloved).

        In Jesus Name – be blessed brother!


  2. cam says:

    Hi I am cam and I have\had the same pronlem and I would like help, I couldnt have said it better than matt please help

    • Dave Alston says:

      Hi Cam,

      Yes, we must first recognise we need help, then secondly be sure that where get help from is a source which actually works and has been proven in battle may times over.

      I strongly suggest you print out my reply to Matt and read it again and again and pray accordingly!

      Bless you Cam and may Jesus and the powers of His Kingdom crush the powers of darkness that seek to steal you away. Remember, NOTHING CAN, because you are a child of the Most High GOD, and deeply beloved of Him. Be STRONG, trust in the LORD with all your heart, and seek Him, because you will find Him and His power to overcome everything you need victory in.

  3. Desmond says:

    i have sinned against the LORD and I wish he could forgive me and heal me, he heal me once then sinned i pray he could forgive me

    • Dave Alston says:


      If you have sinned against the LORD, then you can ask him to forgive you and He will.

      If you confess your sin to Him, repent and ask Him for forgiveness then He will forgive you.

      “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9 NKJV

      If you find it hard to accept forgiveness from GOD then perhaps you should find a Pastor you can confess your sins to. This a very powerful way to not only be forgiven but also to be HEALED.

      See what James 5:16 (NIV) says…

      “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.”

      It may be hard to do this but it is very effective, and especially with sins which seem impossible to overcome. Bringing them into the light, and humbling yourself before GOD in this manner is always noticed by GOD and He will reward you.

      Peace of mind is worth everything, and the greatest peace of all is knowing ALL your sins are forgiven and you are at peace with GOD.

      Bless you Desmond

      PS In the past you may well have been forgiven for a particular sin, then healed from it and set free by Jesus. However, satan and his forces are often sent to IMMEDIATELY steal what you have been given by GOD.

      Therefore satan will try to steal your peace and get you if at all possible to SIN AGAIN in the area you have just been set free from by the LORD.

      Therefore when you are forgiven, made clean and set free and healed you MUST guard your healing in prayer, and wise living so you are not quickly ambushed and lose what Jesus gives you.

      Guarding what GOD gives you from satan’s thieves is a principle which also applies to many other areas too.

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